[TW rape culture] Games Women Play: We “Don’t Want Sex”
This article was sent my way by unicornemma. First, let me say, if you’re running a website about sex and relationships, and you have a section called ‘games women play,’ congratulations: you’re perpetuating sexist and misogynist stereotypes! Fucking ridiculous.
As for this specific article, it reeks of rape culture. People, if you follow these tips, you are going to sexually harass and possibly sexually assault someone. Just don’t do it. The article reads:
Don’t take first signs of resistance as signs of failure. The case isn’t closed. Do remain curious and playful. Common signs of resistance include:
- “I’m tired, I have a headache, I’m on my period”
- “I have to finish this first, I have to get up early for work, something work something”
- “I don’t think I’m ready, I want to go slow, I don’t feel like it, I just can’t, I don’t know if I want to or not.”
- She talks about her boyfriend and puts it on him, “He would be heartbroken, he’d be upset, he won’t let me”
- She picks a silly fight
- She pretends she’s doing something very important
- She invites her friend to go out with the two of you
- She puts her desire on you, she makes it all about you wanting to sleep with her
If these sound familiar, it’s because they’re all examples of things we do when we really want to say no, but we’re trying to be polite. Please go and leave a comment if you have time, letting this woman (yes, a woman wrote this) know how wrong she is.
