Loneliness : The belief that no one loves us, that no one cares and we must desperately cling to anyone who finds us attractive or acceptable . This creates dependency, not intimacy.
The solution Accurate Self-Assessment : Not everyone will love you, but many people will if they meet you, get to know you, and spend time working/playing along side you.
Resentment : Holding anger and refusing to move beyond real or imagined mistreatment in the past . Some people spend their whole lives as “victims”, nurturing a terrible event in their past.
The solution Let go! Life is not fair and people do not always behave well or kindly . Use your trauma to make you wise, kind, gentle, and strong . Holding anger will not work.
Self-Doubt : The repeated, endless questioning of your own abilities, opinions or actions . The inability to take a stand, to act boldly, or to follow-through.
The solution Action! Think clearly, then take action and follow-through : Start small, but do it! You are the world’s expert on your life! Use your wisdom to live well.
Stubbornness : The refusal or inability to re-assess a situation, change your mind, or admit you were wrong.
The solution Wisdom and Humility : Only a fool stays on a course that is headed for disaster! Search for new and better information, remain flexible, open and creative . When the situation changes, adjust accordingly and set a new course.
Addiction : Humans become addicted to drugs, but we also become addicted to our jobs, our opinions or our lifestyle . We can be addicted to people and need them rather than love them.
The solution Take a vacation! Periodically, walk in someone else’s shoes . Break your habits, re-arrange your schedule, delegate those things that only you can do “right” . Use habits and traditions to set you free, don’t let habits enslave you! (source)
